It seems that in modern concrete jungle the rules of love game have changed and it became impossible to define who is the victim and who is the hunter in it. The social role of women is rapidly changing and the initiate in starting the relations is not viewed as inappropriate behavioral pattern any more.
In childhood the women were told not to call the men first or invite them somewhere and it was right for that time. But now, as the women became equal to men in terms of income, carrier promotion and political influence the gender archetypes are not working any more. Eye shooting ceased to be the only weapon of women in hunting for men and the modern principle of action is the following – if you want to have something (or someone) just go and take it (or him).
“Flirting is the art of keeping intimacy as a safe distance” (Sabina Sesselmann). Flirting is the art and it is true indeed. It is difficult to learn it but nevertheless you may try. You are attracted to someone special and it seems he likes you too. Attention without intention. Well, you may move on but it is just another story. Flirting is exciting. But if you are dating someone be careful. You may simply pass the point of no return and ruin your relationship.
Today I would like to share my own experience regarding my relations. The point is that I earn much more than my husband. Of course many things depend on the situation but in my case one day it became a problem. I didn’t want it to destroy our relations so I decided to do my best to improve the situation and save my family.
Once it seemed to me that I was much more motivated and ambitious than my husband was. I became more irritated and paid attention to trivial matters. I tried to understand myself and the actual reasons of my behavior and attitude. Sometimes it seemed to me I got married laziest man in the world but I still loved him. Sometimes he was avoiding responsibility. It happened so from time to time he neglected me when I need emotional support. Well, he just didn’t understand me when I needed it. But then I realized that it was my choice to be highly ambitious and it was my choice to get married him. It was a dilemma for me whether to divorce or change my attitude to it.