Fazal Sheikh is an American photographer. He became famous for his pictures of people living in displaced communities in Africa, Pakistan, India, Brazil, Cuba and Afghanistan. One of his most interesting and moving projects called Ladli was executed in India. Sheikh was interested in the problem of status of women in modern India. The situation is pretty difficult over there. The number of abortions is extremely high in the country. Usually they have abortions when it is known that a woman is expecting a girl. “In the past, it was common for female babies to be killed at birth – often part of a midwife’s duties”. Children are kidnapped, raped and killed. Many of them are forced to prostitute. Slavery is also a common curse of the modern Indian society.
Today I would like to share my own experience regarding my relations. The point is that I earn much more than my husband. Of course many things depend on the situation but in my case one day it became a problem. I didn’t want it to destroy our relations so I decided to do my best to improve the situation and save my family.
Once it seemed to me that I was much more motivated and ambitious than my husband was. I became more irritated and paid attention to trivial matters. I tried to understand myself and the actual reasons of my behavior and attitude. Sometimes it seemed to me I got married laziest man in the world but I still loved him. Sometimes he was avoiding responsibility. It happened so from time to time he neglected me when I need emotional support. Well, he just didn’t understand me when I needed it. But then I realized that it was my choice to be highly ambitious and it was my choice to get married him. It was a dilemma for me whether to divorce or change my attitude to it.